Marriage
God Gave Help Meets To Men - Why?
Rev. Cathryn Ndyabagye
Dictionaries say Help meet means, help mate.
God is such a wonderful God of balance and made marriage, so unique - to be equal in every way.
Men are not aware of why God gave them a 'help meet'. There is more to it than a person who cooks, cleans, and raises the kids.
God placed women into a very important role when He made woman as a help meet. He position matters!
God makes us to be accountable to each other. Men are responsible to lead his wife and family in the love of God. To provide and protect his family.
Women are help meets, to help be a team mate to their husband. To help stand together with her husband to be heirs in Christ.
God gives the woman ability to see that her husband is making good, or bad decisions. Her job as help meet is to remind and give advice to her husband if he's making wrong choices.
Men can either can listen to his wife and learn from the help meet, or rebel against her and mess up his life.
God uses husbands and wives to help each other stay on track, and do the right things.
Abraham listened to Sarah when she gave him sound advice. Because he listened to her, God blessed him.
When men rebel and refuse to listen to his help meet, they face consequences.
If she warns him from God and he refuses to listen, he will pay for his mistake.
If you listen to a wise woman of God, a man will learn that the Holy spirit helps protect the marriage in the Lord. God made it that way.
I know many men don't want to listen because of pride. God is not interested in your pride. He is interested if you will listen to your wife and work with her.
All the advice that Godly husbands and wives speak in the Lord are to help each other.
When we don't listen to each other, and work as a team, we grow apart and sometimes become enemies. God didn't ordain us to be enemies.
God wants us both to love and respect our positions in marriage. Not to compare or put each other down. It should actually be the opposite-to build each other up in the Lord.
We both have a responsibility to help each other stay on track.
When Jesus taught the disciples about washing each other's feet, this represented helping each other stay true in God. To remind, warn and help encourage one another. To pray and bare each other's burdens. They worked together. To keep each other's lives clean and pure.
So us is when you are married. Marriage is not about being dominate or slaves to each other. It's about love, respect for one another in the Lord.
When the flesh, pride, stubbornness, and selfishness runs the marriage, it's going in the wrong direction from God, and the marriage.
Always keeping your marriage fresh in love and respect in God will keep it on track and both of the mates will grow deeper in God and each other. Always being teachable and flexible with each other. By living the word we stay on track with God.
By realizing you each have a great calling in this marriage and obligation to each other, helps both parties. Stand in your right position in God. Both have to be real and work together to make it work.
By sharing the word and praying together you can walk in the spirit together freely, with no controlling. Free to be yourselves in the Lord.
Forgive in hard times, and encourage each other. Die to pride and submit to one another to achieve oneness in God.
God bless you all!
Rev. Cathryn Ndyabagye
Hebrew references in Scripture...
http://www.ancient-hebrew.org/m/articles_helpmeet.html
https://www.gotquestions.org/woman-helper-suitable.html
Other References:
Prov. 16:18; Eph. 5:21-33; Luke 18:9-14;James 3:2, James 5:16;1 Peter 3:8-17;1 Peter 2:18;Proverbs 10:17, 12:1;Proverbs 25:6,7;Luke 7:36-39;Philippians 1:1, 2 Corinthians 4:5, Matthew 23:11;Matthew 18: 21-35;1 Thessalonians 5:18;Ephesians 4:31-32;Luke 9:23;Gen.21:
Truth about marriage...
Marriage is established by God.
This is why when and if a spouse sways or stops trying, the marriage falls off course.
Human stubbornness and pride, games, silence, control, rudeness, selfishness, adultery, all the things people get distracted with to stop working on the marriage, causes it to fail.
Those who try, who are faithful all the way and please their spouse, keep trying, communicating, praying together, maturing, try to understand the other and work things out will make it through stronger.
The main reasons marriage fails is when a spouse becomes selfish and goes their own way, leaves their spouse out, stop communication and refuse to work problems out. Their lack of wanting to work out problems become lazy and not commuted.
If you wonder why your marriage does not work, know God is seeing how you handle this sacred relationship.
He made it so you can't play with it, damage it, not treat it any old way. He loves us unconditionally. So should spouses really love their spouse. He gave his life for us. So we should give our life to Him and to our spouses.
Something happens to your soul when you stop caring about your marriage. Things change and heaven watches.
What will you do with it?
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Malachi 2:14-15: “But you say, 'Why does he not?' Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant."
Song of Solomon 8:6-7: “Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the LORD. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, he would be utterly despised."
Ephesians 4:2-3: “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace."Colossians 3:14: “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."
Ecclesiastes 4:9: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
God answers your problems
Rev. Cathryn Ndyabagye
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So many can't handle the ways of life, so they smoke pot, do drugs or drink alcohol. They think that makes them cope.
The reality is our anchor is in the solid rock. Who is the rock? Yes, it is Jesus.
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Without leaning totally on God, relying on him and keeping our faith in Him, we sink in this world, like Peter.
Jesus called Peter to walk with him on water. For Jesus it was easy. He totally trusted His Father.
Peter on the other hand feared to trust Jesus and walk in faith on the water. He fell in from his fear.
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Today we can overcome any problems we have when we have a real relationship with Jesus.
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We don't have to lean on other things.
I guarantee you, that if you fall in love totally with Jesus, He will make your ways straight, then you won't need those other things.
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Let God help you with your problems. He's there to take them and help you...
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Prov. 3:6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.
Marriage is not an option.
It's a responsibility
Its a command by God to love and care for each other.
Keep your priority in keeping your spouse number one in the Lord.
Never get lazy or tired of giving and being devoted to your spouse.
God gave his best for the bride.
He gave His only son.
Jesus did His best for the bride. He gave His life for her.
The Holy Spirit does His best for the bride: To comfort, encourage, direct and anoint with great power from God to show the way.
God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit never got lazy with their love for us.
We should never stop giving, uplifting, understanding, loving and being
devoted, as we are married in Christ.
Let us continue without wavering by being
True, keep our love growing, keep you marriage top priority. Never allowing it to be last.
The bible talks about being a cheerful giver. This is needed in marriage.
2 Corin. 9:6-7 says, The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully[a] will also reap bountifully. 7 Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
There is another scripture that comes to mind that is needed in marriage.
2 Corin. 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or empty pride, but in humility consider others more important than yourselves.
Life is not just about us.
We need to nourish and feed our marriages. Taking better care of each other.
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Verses you don't hear about marriage and how to act...
I'm sharing this thought with husbands today.
Modern day bible teaching on marriage has gone off track a lot due to traditions of men.
I want to share a passage in the Bible.
Many times men spend so much time wanting and forcing women to submit to him; even to the point that he degrades and disrespects, takes advantage of her.its a sin to degrade your wife. Did you know that?
I want to share how God feels about husbands being aggressive to the wife of your youth...
This passage is showing God's anger and disappointment in a few things. You can read all of the 2nd chapter to see the other things God was dealing with husbands about.
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Malicai 2:13-15 And this is the second thing you do:
You cover the altar of the Lord with tears,
With weeping and crying;
So He does not regard the offering anymore,
Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.
14 Yet you say, “For what reason?”
Because the Lord has been witness
Between you and the wife of your youth,
With whom you have dealt treacherously;
Yet she is your companion
And your wife by covenant.
15 But did He not make them one,
Having a remnant of the Spirit?
And why one?
He seeks godly offspring.
Therefore take heed to your spirit,
And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.
God's Plan
All of us make plans every day for our agendas, life, family, meetings and travel.
The secret to see miracles in your life is to love God and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you. He knows how to bring His plan to you.
So many hunt for things that will solve their problems. The separate seek many habits or ways they can improve their life.
The secret is loving God. As we live for him and use our talent he gives to us, allowing the fruits of the Spirit to grow in our lives, and allowing the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to the gifts He gives to use, to touch others in the Lord.
Whether you waited on God 1 year or 20 years, it doesn't matter. What matters is, are you learning to be faithful to God and continue to grow in Him?
Impatient people who don't want to wait on God, can't seem to find what they are looking for, they lack and develop a bad attitude. Yes we all have down times but we have to pick ourselves up again and really trust God.
Don't worry, God will get you past what you are going through. Are we learning from God to mature in Him?
The best way to see Gods will is through prayer, the word, allow the Holy Spirit to show you the doors before you that God opens.
We can't see that if we plan it ourselves. We must be faithful in the little things, in order for God to bring the big things.
Instead of seeking after things, instead of planning all your agendas, worrying about everything. Just rest in God and live faithful for Him.
Tell someone Jesus loves them. Be content with what you have, even if its a little.
Be thankful and be content in God.
Soon you will see miracles of God to come to you.
I know, I have experienced it many times and God never failed me. He always brings me blessings in waiting.
Divorce is handled according to Each Person's Experience according to the bible.
Many Christians argue if you should stay with an abuser/cheater. If you know the word, you should know what Jesus says about adultery.
There is no compromise with sin.
Yes you can forgive a person who repents.
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A wife who is cheated on,or a husband who is cheated on has a free choice to choose what they decide to do about it.
Jesus gives you that choice whether to leave or stay.
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As Christians,we don't compromise to or submit to sin.
The word joyful or blessed describes people of righteousness, those who are totally subservient to God’s will and wholeheartedly devoted in their relationship to Him. We do not compromise or deviate from His standards but “walk only in His path.” We hear only God’s voice (1 Kings 18:21; John 8:47; John 10:27), and we do not yield to or permit any deviation from His Word (Deuteronomy 4:2; Psalm 119:128; Revelation 22:18-19). Not compromising requires our unswerving submission to Him and to Him only, regardless of the world’s concession to godlessness (Joshua 24:15; Psalm 119:10; Psalm 119:15).
Think about this... A cheater already left the bonds of marriage and broke his/her vows to that marriage. The spouse who cheated, is the unbeliever, and when the unbeliever leaves, the bible says that the believer is not under bondage in those cases.
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! Corin.7:15 says in KJV
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
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The CEV says If your husband or wife isn't a follower of the Lord and decides to divorce you, then you should agree to it. You are no longer bound to that person. After all, God chose you and wants you to live at peace.
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2 Corinthians 6:14-15
Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?